The Art of Contentment


The source of all mentally created dissatisfactions appears to stem from comparing real-life experiences to what is defined in the mind as “ideal.” Many religions believe this was caused by man eating of the forbidden Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. “Man’s eyes were opened to know the distinction between good and evil” (Genesis 3:5). The solution is to seek out ways to either make experienced reality conform to the ideal, or to lower expectations to the level of the experienced.

When one can live in the moment with expectations that are in harmony with experiences, one has achieved the greatest mental contentment possible.

So what is the ultimate motive in human life?

As mentioned in previous posts, the most fundamental roots of all human behavior and the motives behind it boil down to two things; avoid pain and/or obtain pleasure, both of which are genetically designed to ensure survival at the most basic level of body and mind as a system! Both pain and pleasure are feelings (F). The TFA triangle demonstrates how they affect our thoughts (T) and actions (A).

TFA-Triangle-NewUltimate happiness is a universal desire. This feeling (F) is what every individual pursues in one way or another. As explained previously, Seligman and like-minded researchers have concluded that happiness has three main components:

1. Getting more pleasure out of life (physically or mentally)

2. Becoming more engaged in what you do.

3. Finding ways of making your life more meaningful

Ultimately when you break down all these three components, what they boil down to is the physical of emotional sense of pleasure, which the person attached to a specific experience.

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